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Therapy for Relationships.

Give yourSelf some LOVE.

Practicing Self-love is BADASS because it takes a lot of courage to take care yourSelf first. Most often, it doesn’t feel like the right thing to do.

Life is better with someone to LOVE…but sometimes it doesn’t feel that way.

Does this sound familiar?

You go into relationships with everything you got and with the best of intentions, but still, the outcome is not in your favor. It’s exhausting to always give your best and you feel guilty when your best isn’t good enough.

“THERE MUST BE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME”

You find it difficult to know what YOU want and need. It is not a practice you are used to. You walk on eggshells to keep the peace and asking for what you need or getting what you want is considered selfish.

“IT’S BEST TO STAY SILENT AND STRONG”

Relationships are too stressful and never work out the way you believe they should. You expect too much out of a partner and you will either have to lower your standards or just say no to love.

“SINGLE AND FREE IS THE WAY TO BE”

 

but, wait…

Insecure attachment could be misguiding you and harming your opportunity for connected, lasting relationships.

I can help you know when your Ego is misleading you and build the psychological flexibility that puts your Self back in the lead. Secure relationships start with safety inside Self.

How do I know if therapy for relationships is right for me?

You are a good fit if..

  • You’re entering into a new relationship and are determined to change your self-abandoning patterns of behavior.

  • You are in an unhealthy relationship, are ready to leave and don’t know how.

  • You are ready to take responsibility for your health and wellness, feeling more fulfilled and connected in your relationships.

  • You are ready to learn how to love yourself in a way that allows you to start living your best life with or without an intimate partner.

  • You are no longer willing to abandon yourself to meet the wants and needs of others.

  • You are ready and willing to go deep to nurture and heal wounds that are keeping you stuck in pattern of self-harm.

  • You want to maturely manage insecurity and jealousy in polyamorous relationships.

I’m here to help.

Research matters. Relationship matters most.

I help my clients feel safe and secure in the therapy room so they can build safety and security inside themselves.

 

How will I know I am making progress in therapy?

Visualize what ‘success’ looks like for you

then…make it happen.

Here are some statements that paint a picture of positive outcomes from therapy:

  • I’m so much nicer to myself now. I pointed at myself in the mirror the other morning and said “you’re a fu*king badass” and I actually meant it.

  • I realized how much I tried to change my partner, expecting them to meet my needs. I also realized how much I thought I needed to change to meet my partner’s needs. It’s funny what you don’t realize is happening until you start paying attention.

  • I never really knew what inner peace felt like until now. Like, I know my values and I make decisions aligned with them and…HOLY SHIT, IT WORKS!

  • I’m so much happier now since I started putting myself first and meeting my own needs. It’s very liberating.

How could life be different if you were the one saying these things?

FAQS

What others have asked about therapy for relationships:

 

  • It is hard to know what a healthy relationship truly is until you are actually in one. Quite often women come to me not knowing what a healthy relationship looks or feels like. This is often due to not knowing how to have a healthy relationship with the SELF.

    I answer this question by having my clients explore what they believe should make up a healthy relationship and then holding themselves accountable to have that relationship with themselves.

    I use Dr. Brene Brown’s BRAVING acronym for TRUST to guide the work centered on trusting the self to build a strong foundation for healthy intimate partner (and other) relationships.

    Once you have a healthy relationship with yourself, your picture and expectation of how others are allowed to treat you will start to change. It is then that you will know what a healthy relationship, founded in trust, is.

    Ref: “Braving the Wilderness” - Dr. Brene Brown.

    BRAVING: Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Vault, Integrity, Non-Judgement, Generosity.

  • Therapy for relationships is actually individual therapy for women. The goal of the therapeutic work is to promote emotional healing of self and build self-leadership skills so you learn how to set the foundation that allows you to be both held and free in your relationship(s). Being both held and free allows emotional intimacy and connection because you are not trying to change your partner and you know yourself well enough not to change who you are for them.

  • Before we actually start therapy, it is important for me to be sure I am the right-fit therapist for you.

    Our first step will be to complete a free 15-30 minute telephone or video call (your choice) so I can ask you some questions and you will have the opportunity to ask me your questions.

    You can simply click the “Schedule a free consult” button below, fill out the contact form and I will personally contact you to schedule the free consult.

    During the consult call, if we both feel that we are a good match, I will share my available openings with you and we will get you scheduled for the 90-min intake assessment appointment.

    Remember to inquire about reduced-fee slots based on your individual needs.

More questions? Check out my FAQs page.

Love YourSelf

TO BE YOUR BEST SELF FOR OTHERS

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